What Do You Want?

“Figure out what you want, because if you don’t know what you want, you’ll never get it.” – Getting in Touch with Your Inner Bitch (Calendar)

When you ask someone a question, do they most commonly answer with negatives?  Do they list all the things they do NOT want and have trouble identifying the things that they do?  Are their do NOTS well-defined and their WANTS only vaguely identified?

I think a corollary question is:  Do they care more about personality/celebrity or character/substance?

By giving choosing personality and focusing on what we don’t want, we give up our sense of agency and justify our inaction.  Inaction is action and we are responsible for that too.  Success occurs either by support or by inaction.  People act to enable it or fail to act to prevent it.

Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking by Susan Cain addresses the change from valuing character to elevating personality (celebrity).  I read her book a few months ago and just discovered that my sister is reading it.  Thinking people are often introverts in a world where they comprise about 1/3 of the population.

In a culture based on personality, appearance becomes more important than substance.  That is simply easier.  People aren’t required to gather information, check facts, use discernment or think critically.  They simply admire someone or something, identifying with the superficial appearance and rhetoric.  Division and distrust are the tools of personality.  Tolerance and cohesion are the tools of character.  Character takes more work and makes less noise.  We have a very noisy world.